Mooney was conferred the Merdeka Award in 2020 for Outstanding Contribution to the People of Malaysia.
SELF BELIEF
Please remain humble, because too much self-belief mutates into arrogance, an extremely unattractive trait. So perhaps we should reframe this as ‘self-assurance’.
You should always listen with care, to others. Listening is a very undervalued skill. Most people do not listen properly. You’ll have a huge advantage in life if you pay attention. However, never ignore the voice from within, and follow your dream - even if there are a few detours on the way. Nothing terrible happens if you try your best and don’t succeed. We would not have any Olympic events or other sporting competitions if people were frightened of failing or coming second. Most successful people in life leave a trail of mini-failures on their ascent to the summit. It’s part of the human condition that we remember the success stories more than the near-misses. So please do not burden yourself with the quest for perfection and the fear of failure. You have to reach for the stars to hit the moon.
Unfortunately, attending a public school put you at a slight disadvantage in terms of confidence and self-belief. In the comprehensive school system in your era, people did not want to excel academically or be ‘showy’. Like every girl in the class, the priority was to ‘fit’ in. This strategy worked well at this stage, but later at University and in the workplace you came across many more privileged and entitled people. These individuals ooze confidence - which is gifted by the culture of many private fee-paying schools. Do not compare yourself to those peers whose self-importance makes you feel small. Do not stay silent. Believe in yourself, but remain humble.
INSECURITIES
Everyone has insecurities. Even the really rich, successful and most attractive people in the world have self-doubt. So please do not compare yourself to them. In your mind you will always come out worse. Whereas the reality may be the opposite. Insecurity is loudest and most intense when we are isolated. Lockdowns will happen in the future that will challenge our economic and mental health. However, it will show us the importance of human interaction and family. Insecurities will be heightened by social media. Remember the photos people post are not reflective of real life - they are aspirational. Do not live your life according to how many ‘likes' you receive. It is a hollow place and you will never find happiness there. Just see it for what it is, and the potential harm it can cause people as well as the good. Make sure you are present with friends and family - and not co-existing in a physical room with family and friends whilst engaging with a social media world somewhere else.
FINDING PURPOSE
FAMILY
Relish the time with your loved ones. Do not take them for granted. They have helped form you as the person you are today. It is never a waste of time if you phone them rather than send them a text or email. When you have the privilege of having your own family - enjoy your children as the time will pass quickly. The biggest problem you will face as a working mother is lack of time. Trying to balance so many roles is probably the most difficult and exhausting. Be kind to yourself. You will be your biggest critic. Just do the best you can.
LOVE & KINDNESS